10 Things I Hate About You

10 Things I Hate About You

10 Things I Hate About You, adapted from Shakespeare's play "The Taming of the Shrew," is a 1999 teen romantic comedy that helped launch Julia Stiles, Heath Ledger and Joseph Gordon-Levitt's careers. The modernized version of Shakespeare's original story contains some changes for modern audiences while maintaining its period setting and feel.

1. You’re a jerk

A jerk is someone with an arrogant and uncaring attitude. They're rude, unprofessional and mean to others.

Jerks are individuals who disrupt the workplace and make life difficult for those around them. Bosses especially may find jerks problematic, since they make it challenging to retain the best employees.

The good news is that there are ways to deal with jerks without hurting anyone. You can ignore them, fight back and if that doesn't work, quit the job or move on to find a better environment.

2. You’re a liar

There are a number of ways to tell when someone is lying, but nonverbal cues may be difficult to detect. Indeed, according to a recent study in the Journal of Communication, people often fail to pay attention to liars' facial expressions or body language.

Psychologists believe that facial expressions and body movement can provide clues as to how a liar is feeling. For instance, if they're angry or anxious, you might observe stiffening of their arms and legs.

Liars tend to pause more when speaking, which could be indicative of their desire to gauge your reaction. According to a 2011 UCLA study, they may also stammer or slow down their words as well.

3. You’re a cheat

Cheating is the practice of violating or breaking rules to gain an edge. This could range from using a secret access code to unlock the most desirable part of a video game, to more intricate schemes such as offering cash or gifts in exchange for cheat codes or in-game currency.

No matter if you're dating a cheater or just curious about the newest member of your clan, deciphering the details can be tricky. That's why it's essential to pay attention to small things in your relationship such as how your partner communicates with others or what they enjoy doing for fun. The more knowledge you gain about them, the easier it will be to navigate rough waters together. From there, you can decide if your love is in trouble or an upgrade may be needed.

4. You’re a bully

Bullies use aggression and intimidation to achieve their objectives, sometimes by harming people physically or emotionally.

Bullies often become victims of their own bullying and use it as a way to cope with the hurt they feel. Unfortunately, this learned behavior can have lasting negative consequences on both mental health and relationships with friends.

If you're the bully, it may be time for some professional help from a mental health professional. They can teach you how to manage your emotions and effectively stop bullying others.

5. You’re a narcissist

Narcissism is a complex personality disorder that can be caused by both genetics and environment. It often manifests when someone experiences excessive levels of abuse, neglect or other negative experiences early in life.

Narcissists possess an unfounded sense of self-importance and often believe they are superior to others. Narcissists will attempt to convince you that they are right by using charm and threats if you challenge their views.

If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, consider leaving them. Although it can be challenging, doing so is necessary for your mental wellbeing.

If they attempt to lure you back after leaving, take steps to protect yourself. Block their calls, texts and social media accounts; seek support if needed.

6. You’re a snob

Snobs are people who believe they're better than others and attempt to impose their standards on everyone around them. For instance, they might look down on you if they believe your car or house doesn't match theirs in some way.

They're passionate about labels and designer goods, and strive to show them off in their daily lives. For instance, they may get very particular about having the correct label on their outfit.

Snobs often exhibit narcissism and self-importance, which is why they broadcast their lives online so others can see how remarkable they are. Unfortunately, this can lead to them feeling like they're above everyone else and the center of attention - which may not be beneficial in friendships. As a result, you may find them increasingly distant and unapproachable in relationships, making spending time with them increasingly unpleasant.

7. You’re a jerk

Jerks are individuals who fail to appreciate the perspectives of others. They usually view others as tools for manipulation or fools for dealing with, rather than as moral and epistemic peers.

They can be quite unpleasant to be around and take offense easily when criticised. Either they dismiss criticism, counterattack, bloviate, storm off or smile and dig the knife deeper into you.

If you're thinking of being a jerk, it is wise to stop and consider the potential repercussions. Being unkind does not bring joy into your life and may actually do more harm than good.

8. You’re a liar

Although there is no surefire way to tell if someone is lying, there are some telltale signs you can look out for. These include body movement, facial expressions and eye movements.

If you observe a liar looking away from your face or blinking rapidly, that could be an indication they aren't telling the truth.

Another sign of a liar is when they avoid answering questions and give vague responses, according to licensed marriage and family therapist Shane Birkel, LMFT. This strategy may be used when they want you to believe their false story instead of yours, Birkel adds.

People who lie often will fidget, displaying nervous energy. This could include shuffling their feet or playing with their hair. But fidgeting is not always indicative of lying; it could simply be a defense mechanism for those without anxiety issues. Therefore, it's essential to consider all factors before jumping to any conclusions.

9. You’re a snob

You have your own standards when it comes to many things - food, fashion, coffee - or any other aspect of life! No matter the subject matter is important to you, your standards can be high!

Do you feel the pressure to perform better than everyone else? Feeling pressured can put a great deal of strain on you; maybe even lead you to obsess about being perfect!

But, this can also backfire and make you appear fake and superficial.

Are you a snob because you think that you are better than everyone else and tend to be highly condescending towards others?

10. You’re a jerk

A jerk is someone who treats others poorly. They tend to be rude, malicious, selfish, arrogant and snobby in nature; as though they don't give a damn about anyone else.

Though jerks may appear easy to spot and avoid, their toxic personalities make them difficult to remove from the workplace.

But it is possible to recognize a jerk and then disentangle yourself from them. In her new book, Jerks Don't Win, author Kimberly West helps readers identify seven types of jerks they may come across and offers strategies for dealing with them effectively.